Dating Single Moms: Tips for Guys

Tips for Dating Single Moms

Sisters Helping Sisters.Org doesn’t get a lot of daddy visitors to the website, but from time to time we hear from a few. As a result, I thought it would be a good idea to feature some information men might find useful and info that would help single moms at the same time.

Dating as a single mother is one of the trickiest elements of raising kids on your own. There are no cookie-cutter approaches to the subject, but these tips might make the process easier for everyone involved. Guys will find these ideas particularly useful should they date a single mother. Go ahead and forward this to your male friends and family members! These tips might include some information difficult to say, but they need to hear.

Tip 1: Respect the multiple roles and facets of the single mother. The single mom you date may enjoy nice evenings on the town as she is able, but know that it took some planning and arranging for you to enjoy that time with her. Single moms can rarely spontaneously jump up and go on a date at a moment’s notice. She must put a lot of “ducks’ in a row to make that special moment. So respect her time, value her boundaries and make the evening extraordinary.

Tip 2: Don’t mislead her. Clearly, single moms are women, but they are also someone’s mother. Treat her with respect. If you’re not interested in a possible commitment or marriage, then you must tell her so she will know how to treat and interact with you. She doesn’t have time for games or weak wishy-washy men. So, initiate the conversation about your intentions and find out hers. If you guys define the relationship it lessens the possibility of misunderstandings that will distract or hurt her later.

By the same token, don’t assume that she is looking for an instant husband –just because she has kids. She may not view you or need you that way.

Tip 3: Children are fragile little beings. Be careful about meeting her kids. The last thing kids need is a string of men in and out of their lives. Unless you are interested in being a stable part of their lives, there’s little reason for you to meet them.

Tip 4: A single mother doesn’t need booty calls. In my experience as a single mom, sex before marriage only clouded and muddied relationships. My faith empowered me to make good decisions about my body so I didn’t continually fall into situations that inhibited my ability to parent well.

If you are dating a single mom and you love her; then wait for her. If you love her enough to be physical then step up like a real man: wait for sex and then progress toward a real commitment that involves a preacher and a ring.

Back to the Moms. Men of integrity are a blessing and they still exist! I can attest to that. However, he did not come overnight. I went though a string of nutmos. But the good ones are out there, ladies.

Single moms, set emotional boundaries to protect you and your children. It’s also time for men to exhibit integrity and conduct themselves sensibly and reasonably in dating relationships. The number one benefactors will be the children.